I had long thought that I will abstain myself from scribbling
my thoughts on this topic but a deep-rooted hatred urged me to finally voice my
concerns.
I have always had more number of female friends than male
ones and probably for this reason I am closer, than many of my friends, to the
problems that a woman faces. A girlfriend or two of mine keep telling me that I
am their girlfriend with whom they can share anything.
And this is wherefrom my source of agony often arises. Often
my female friends confide in me things which ultimately have to be kept hushed
up for no reason. Many of you know that I have joined a job just a year ago. So
have my friends in different companies. Of late, a few of my female friends are
complaining of workplace harassment. And this is irking me no ends with the
only way for me to vent out being writing.
Decent, indecent, direct, indirect, verbal, physical, mental
etc are a few of the many ways my friends are facing problems. And I believe
many, at least 90%, of the working women across India face the same. Thus,
keeping my friends’ identity secret but citing their examples nonetheless, I will
today address those voiceless women who keep to themselves the tales of being
harassed.
My direct aim is at those bosses who take the female
employees for granted and from behind the virtual veil of chauvinism take pride
or no shame in considering her to be a whore. Too blatant? Your expectations
are worse than this.
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It is weird how many bosses consider their position to be a
gateway to a woman’s body. They think their position is such that nobody will
ever talk back at them. They think they can put their weight behind their argument
and prove innocence. But mind it, not for long is this possible. We should not
forget what happened to ex-TERI chief R K Pachauri.
However, it is astonishing to also learn from a few women
that they fear to open their mouths. And that’s precisely why a lot of these
bosses take advantage of these women. There are, I believe, 99.9% women who
hate being taken advantage of either sexually or otherwise in a workplace or
any other place. Then why this silence?
I asked my friends and I am sure the ones reading this piece
too will have their versions. Please let me know. My friends gave me vast and
literally weird answers to this. Here’s a small list of such answers:-
·
It is better to keep quiet than to create a ruckus in
the office. Better to keep it to myself rather than being the talking topic among
the men in the office,
·
What if I am thrown out of the office?
·
What if my career is tarnished?
·
It’s ok, I’ll find another job soon,
·
What will society think about me? They will call me a slut.
After having heard all these, I have finally thought of
answering them back. Had I been Arnab Goswami I would have reacted to the second
and third points by saying: “Replying to a question with another question? That’s
not fair.” But I will reply to all these today.
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It is because of your silence and gullible nature that he
makes you his target. Remember one thing, and this I say with a lot of guarantee,
men are after all very scared when it comes to these things. It’s your silence
that drives his confidence into considering you to be a slut. If you raise your
voice and no one is beside you, the police, women’s cell, the DCW (if you happen
to stay in Delhi), the courts, the janta
janardhan will lend their ears. And if this list falls short, media will
always stand beside you. But if you happen to be from the media yourself, then
hey, I am sure you company must be having some or the other rival mediahouse. 
If you are confident about yourself then do not forget, you
had struggled much more during your birth. Thus, if you are thrown out of the
office, then at least the rival company will open its door for you. Always remember
Che Guevara used to say: “It is better to die standing than to live on your
knees.” Your career has been built by you. Just like you should not end your
life if your boyfriend dumps you, you should immediately shame your boss for
harassing you and leave the job.
Many compromise and look for other jobs before taking to task
the person who is the reason behind her quitting, and my dear friends, MANY OF
MY FRIENDS HAVE DONE THIS. To them I ask, how can you be sure that your next
boss will not be the same, unless you find yourself under a woman but God help
you if her tastes are different!!
This is a very small world and trust me a loud voice reaches
quite far. So, if you just gather the guts and shame your tharki boss, trust me, the next one will not dare to come anyway
near you.
And finally, I think you have been brought up by your parents
and not by society. So just give a damn about what society thinks and just hit
his nuts and trust me, someone or the other would be beside you.
I finally turn to you, the boss, who takes advantage of your
female workers. If you have a daughter, then someone out there is doing the
same things with your daughter what you are doing with someone else’s daughter.
If you do not have a daughter then do not take revenge of what your mother has
faced from her boss or her husband. Do not want to bad mouth your parents but
they say that a fruit shows how good the tree is.
So the next time you think you have the license to take a
woman employee for granted, just pick up your job letter and read and re-read,
it does not mention this license. And if still it’s hard to stop your juices
from flowing, go tie a rubber band around it.
And to those friends of mine and the million others of the
like, please raise your voice. Your silence often gives a lot of innocent men
the same name as your bosses. Because this world loves to genaralise!
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